Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it
I found this article extremely interesting because it described why rejection hurts so much. It talks about the hunter gatherers being ostracized back in the day and compared that to how small things can even make us feel bad. I don't know anyone who doesn't hate being rejected, but the truth is it makes us stronger. I think that like this article says is if we focus on every thing that we might have done wrong but make it punitive then you will not better yourself any, but if you focus on how you can change things for a positive outcome next time then the rejection wasn't bad necessarily. This applies to feedback in my mind with practically anything. We live and we learn as people say. I think that the social interaction part of the rejection process is crucial. I personally always feel better around friends when I'm in a time of need or hurting.
I also enjoyed this article because it focused on adjustments we can make when things don't go how we intend them to go. I liked the second tip of "know that there is always help". I find this so relevant to me because I feel that through guidance and communication I am usually able to get back on my feet and maybe even help others out. I also enjoy learning from others experiences and trying to make their learned lessons applicable to my life. I feel this article does a great job of describing that everyone is enduring hardship so to make it the end of the world when something goes badly is ridiculous.
Overall, I think that feedback is great if it is given in the right way. I also think that feedback should be given differently depending on the person. I've had coaches who have yelled at me too much or not enough. I have had teachers who have graded too harshly or not harsh enough. I think that balance is the key in feedback but feedback should always be in the goal of helping one succeed. For me, the best feedback I can receive is one that makes me challenge myself in wanting to be better but doesn't make me think that I will never be able to reach a goal. This applies to schoolwork as well with everyday life activities. I think it is more important to praise people however than to be negative in the long run.
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| I found this image on Pixabay. I think that a high five is a great way to show appreciative feedback. |
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